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Assertive & uncooperative; win-lose
An aggressive communication style, where one’s own needs are advocated over the needs of others. Those who have this style tend to seek control. Their fear is the loss of that control.
Relationships, then, involve a balancing act between two opposing forces, autonomy and interdependence. As a result, conflicts are inevitable. Thus, it’s not conflict per se that threatens the relationship. Rather, it’s how the partners handle the conflict that determines whether the problem is solved and the relationship strengthened—or whether the problem is left unresolved and the relationship weakened.
Assertive & cooperative; win-win
The pooling of individual needs and goals towards one common goal. This requires a lot of communication and cooperation on both sides. This offers for a consensus and integration of needs.
Passive & cooperative; lose-win
A person using this style will yield their needs to those of others. They generally care about the needs of others before their own. Preserving the relationship is most important to them.
Passive & uncooperative; lose-lose
In this style people usually have the attitude of “if the issue isn’t brought up it will just blow over”. With this, issues are pent up and unexpressed, leading to the conflict becoming too big to ignore.
Moderately assertive & cooperative; “draw”
Compromising is an approach to conflict where individuals usually end up gaining and giving trade-offs. This may not inherently sound wrong, but compromise is generally not satisfying.
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